Okay, so I know the bulk of my questions have been about my wedding, but that’s just selfish and it’s too far away for me to really be thinking about it anyway. There is another, much more lovelier wedding coming up way sooner and I have a problem.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he has a huge family. They’re great, but I don’t really get to spend any time with them because HE doesn’t spend a whole lot of time with them, so when it comes to his family functions, I have to re-introduce myself because they hadn’t seen me in months (I want that pattern to change but that’s a whole ‘nother question).
Well, his brother is getting married in August and he’s the best man. As soon as he found out, he started giving me all kinds of duties. First I’m supposed to help the bride–who is fully integrated in the family and therefore among the people I don’t know that well–with her planning, since I love planning things. Then he wants me to help him plan and host the extravagant bachelor/bachelorette party the couple want to have (a old-timey burlesque theme, it’ll be fun). Now, he wants me to go halves with him on the cruise he wants to buy them for a gift. Whoa, buddy!
Like I said, I love planning parties and buying gifts, especially big surprise ones, but this is not my place. I am the girlfriend of the best man, NOT the maid of honor. Inserting myself into the wedding this much seems just tacky, especially since the family doesn’t know me like that. The last thing I want anyone to say or think is "who does she think SHE is?"
The other day, he even suggested that I ask to be a bridesmaid! How rude!
Help!!!!!!!!